Getting Over The Last Hurdle
Monday, August 2nd, 2010
His Mum continued her remarkable recovery going from strength to strength and was back in her own home by Tuesday, less than a week after being in hospital and intubated.
Now, when we visited her and at times in hospital when He was able to talk to her she agreed that it would be a good idea to seek accommodation in the local aged care facility. When we were there visiting she talked about it and some of the advantages it would offer her, meals provided, her room cleaned and so on. He insisted that once she was home she followed up with them to see what was available.
He got a phone call on Saturday to let him know that they had a one bedroom unit near the facility where she could live. They could provide her meals and some assistance there although she wasn’t actually living in the facility and she could keep her dog.
Sounded ideal, however the conversation did not go along those lines. She was not too excited by the idea and grumbled about various things. In the end I think she will go.
Have you ever done the same sort of thing? You talk about doing something, even organise it and then get cold feet. It can be easy to distance yourself from things and not get involved emotionally until you suddenly realise that you are about to jump. In His Mum’s case she can see the logic and the fact that she needs more care. I reckon she has suddenly realised what it means to her to move from the house she has lived in for years and the emotions that brings up. She is an animal lover and has had many pets over the years most of whom are buried in the garden. Plus she may be feeling something about the fact that she will be more dependent.
As I say it is the same for many of us, you can sit down and plan out a logical path for some change in your life. It could be something simple like going to the gym so you need to organise appropriate clothing, decide which gym and organise membership. You might find it easy to organise the clothing and then find some resistance to picking up the phone to talk to different gyms. Or you could have no problem doing these things it’s just when it comes to actually going to the gym that you find all sorts of excuses that stop you.
What is happening here? As I said with His Mum it is going from head to heart. The head can see the logic and it is all good until you get to a certain point, your jump point. At this point the emotions, your heart, gets involved and logic can go out the window.
So what can you do? That depends on how bad it is, sometimes you can get the head to rule again for long enough to get you to pick up the phone or do whatever it is to get you over that last hurdle. You need to acknowledge your emotions and sit with them for a moment without judging them. This may be enough to help you deal with them and move forward. If you still find resistance that is stopping you then try things like breaking the task down, giving yourself a reward for doing it, talking to someone about it and enlisting their support. There are also many blockage busting techniques that can help you with these sort of barriers that a good coach could help you with. Whatever you find that works for you, understanding what is happening as you approach and finish line and that last hurdle will help.
